Life - Where you at?

[Marco]

Trust is overrated, man. Grow a pair and rock the casbah.

Absolute trust is probably something you can only give 0-2 friends in your life, and possibly your life partner.  You may not trust your life partner even if they are the person who matters most to you in the world, because love is not rational.  This is why women are so irrational - love is all they care about - well most of them anyway.  You must question the motives and intentions of everyone else in the world.

Just because you can't trust people though, doesn't mean you should shy away from them.  We all have to play the same game.

[Legion]

Trust is overrated, man. Grow a pair and rock the casbah.

Absolute trust is probably something you can only give 0-2 friends in your life, and possibly your life partner.  You may not trust your life partner even if they are the person who matters most to you in the world, because love is not rational.  This is why women are so irrational - love is all they care about - well most of them anyway.  You must question the motives and intentions of everyone else in the world.

Just because you can't trust people though, doesn't mean you should shy away from them.  We all have to play the same game.

Absolute trust is what exactly? At some point, people will betray your trust just like you'll betray theirs. Can't beat circumstance, I'm afraid.

Women only care about love possibly because they can get it most anywhere. Nah, that's not true. Women are cool. Women for president!

[Maglok]

Interesting topic. I'm 26 and live has been generally kind to me. My parents are together, alive and well. I own my own appartment, which I love. I got a steady job as a webmaster at the moment, specializing towards security and useability soon. Been single a while again, but recently a most fantastic woman entered my life and am now very not-single anymore.

Having your own place is a big character builder and my life has been going uphill since I did. Makes you think about the important things in life.

I'm just boring.

[Mucky]

I'm attending my first semester of college.

[Lavarinth]

Everyone's favorite subject is their selves

Welcome to my life.

[SaintKerrigan]

I'm a 19 year-old guy who's basically on the mend from various mental ailments that prevent him from getting on with life. Unfortunately I tend to offend people without even trying, which frustrates me immensely. I want to be a film director, but I need to get my life in order, and aforementioned mental ailments are not helping me at all. So goes the story of my rather unimportant life.

[Ricky_Honejasi]

In my case, I am 25 years old. Finished the college-equivalent (Programming) in my area and now started university (again in Programming). Still living at my parents. Overall in my life, it's probably quite good compared to average person's (okay financial family situation, parents are together, very limited family issues, minimal external problems, etc.)

In terms of critical aspects, I guess the only aspect I would honestly need to work more on is the job aspect since I worked little (2 years at restaurants, no job in computers of any sort) in all my life. Fortunaly, on my second job, I managed to kept most of my finances for university thus I will probably be able to do 2-3 years without financial aid (which university is also cheap in my area).

School-wide, I do quite okay overall (more or less 70-75% average score-wise, could be 80-90% if I honestly worked harder) despite a relative learning handicap in terms of auditive comprehension and speaking (I am probably more like a 80% visual, 20% auditive person vs the average's 60-40% to 40%-60%).

Heck, I even remember Mucky saying over ventrilo that I tend to speak "premeditated". Well, kind of true since I tend to not be able to "think in the flash of the moment".

In other words, I tend to not react to anything on the spot (or if I do, it's always that ultra-generic reaction to everything), always hold back that one second to two seconds to think at least a bit for all and anything. Can be very good in terms of avoiding mistakes that could cost me out of reactions although it does handicap me in other aspects such as being too slow in terms of any split-second decision or even fast decisions.

Also, I tend to be solitary (and in my corner) because I tend to lack interest to know other people, tend to not trust much in general (the only ones that I can honestly trust are those that I am any willing to call friend, everyone else are acquaintances at best) and probably also due to being "plugged" too much on the computer (which I often lack motivation to do anything outside including even walking).

I guess I also don't like to socialize for the sake of it or for the "potential" that it might bring in real-life. Either I feel honestly comfortable about someone and I am willing to socialize and be open or I just "throw away" the relation (which the latter happens in 99.5% of people I see).

I also don't have a girlfriend, heck I don't have any female friends in real-life. While my sexual orientation is clear about it, I tend not feel too compelled to socialize with them either (part of the reasons are more or less the same ones for socializing as written above).  In addition that a girlfriend is likely to disrupt my studies somehow, might considerably reduce my financial aspects (dates, gifts, etc.) and worse of all, I might not care that much about putting effort into a girlfriend in the first place these times.

[thebrowncloud]

Since most people have posted, I'll throw my story in the ring.

I'm 17 years old and I've had divorced parents since I was 8. I feel like I've missed out on a huge part of my childhood by not having a normal, whole family (although divorce is pretty normal these days). I would probably be a very different person if they stayed together, but I play with the hand I'm dealt.

I never really had a problem making friends. I have many from several different crowds and there isn't much of a difference in my relationship between my close friends and not-so close friends. I tend to have a more sarcastic demeanor with the majority of my friends, but just like anyone else, I act differently depending on who I'm with.

Despite always having plenty of people to call friends, I don't feel like I can relate to them as closely as I would hope. I'm very absorbed by my future and could easily throw away the social life I have now to pursue my goals (which, like Whiplash, consists of working for Blizzard). I've been looking at different schools that offer a game design program and am extremely excited to get into college life. Some people I've known that went off to college found it hard to let go of their high school life, but I see it as a necessary sacrifice and well worth it. I like hanging around with my friends, but I feel like no one really shares my passion for games (StarCraft especially). My cousin, the people here, and some of the wiki staff are the closest to sharing my exact views, but I even see my passion for it a little differently. Maybe it's just me trying to tell myself that I'm different in attempts to make myself seem special and somehow better suited for greatness, but there are a lot of talented people here that I can only dream of topping on my own. Yet it is safe to say that CC and the wiki are my internet "homes-away-from-home".

Like a lot of the people on this thread, I also do not have a girlfriend and have never had one, but I'm working on that. I tended to be more shy in even recent years, but this year I feel a bit more adventurous and willing to take risks than before. Call it puberty or whatever, but it is what it is and it doesn't matter if I screw up with every girl in my school because they will all be gone after this school year. Hooray!

This is definitely an awesome thread, btw. Since the 4YB contest is really all I've done here so far, I feel like I'm getting to know people a lot better.

Cheers!

EDIT: If people wish to hear more, I'm willing to tell. Let me know! Believe it or not, my personal life isn't something I really ever talk to anyone about. That bit about my missing childhood is something I've never told anyone before.

[Taeradun]

i'm 23 and still living with my parents and have been studying at university on and off since early 2004 and constantly changing my course and after all that I only have a year worth of credit towards my IT degree (5 IT subjects + 3 engineering subjects that will just eat up electives slots) but a HECS debt for a bit over 2.5 years or something, and I'm currently studying stuff I already know and the whole reason I dropped out one of the times a few years ago was because university IT degrees are dumb and I should be able to get a decent job somewhere without one based on my skills or get formal certification some quicker way but through a combination of insecurity & laziness I never even applied for much stuff anyway and then I lost the casual IT support job I was working at the time in a restructure and was unemployed for a long time and now I'm back at university for lack of anything better to do and oh god oh god why am I here and also I have an assignment due tomorrow night I haven't started yet

been a fun journey filled with booze/roadtrips/women/lasers/amphetamines/internets/depression/communism along the way though

oh yeah also all these people I know keep fucking getting pregnant (at least it's not by me lol) and just a few days ago my best friend found out she's pregnant as well so there goes my main drinking buddy

saw that "everybody loves talking about themselves" bit while briefly skimming the thread, will actually read the rest of the thread in a few days when I have the time but I do find all this stuff interesting

[IskatuMesk]

That is the biggest run-on sentence I have ever, ever seen.

[Taeradun]

it's intentional

[Milldawg]

I was just going to say the same thing I can't even read it.

Anyway, I started to post here and then stopped and said "nah no one will care," but then I saw that there are a ton of posts, so I might as well.

I'm 23, graduated from a "good" liberal arts college a year ago with a degree in philosophy (aka a degree in pumping gas), and I've been living at home trying to figure out what to do. I'm working on maybe going to grad school in linguistics or philosophy, possibly to study concatenative text-to-speech synthesis. I always said that I didn't want my career to have anything to do with computers, but I have a feeling I won't be able to avoid them.

I have plenty of friends with whom I am truly close, but most of them live hundreds of miles away since they were either college friends or high school friends who have moved away. I haven't really had a girlfriend to speak of, but I'm not sure why. I'm not aggressive when it comes to meeting new people, and my current environment isn't really conducive to meeting new people, so I haven't had much of an opportunity even to try to make new friends or girlfriends since college, but if I do go to grad school, hopefully that will help.

I'm much too financially dependent on my parents. Part of it is that my dad has these beliefs about how the world works that may not align accurately with reality. My mom always urged me to get summer jobs, but my dad brushed them off saying they wouldn't matter in the long run, but now I kind of wish I had listened to my mom. Four years and a useless degree later, I'm no more hireable than I was out of high school, with hardly any work experience. But I'm gradually getting some experience with part time work. Hopefully I'll get a car soon, and then....

For many people, living with their parents is awful because they don't get along, or their parents place lots of demands on them. For me, it's a double edged sword...my dad is very generous and will let me stay here as long as I need (which is what his parents did for him when he was a struggling writer), which is good in one sense because I don't have to worry about living expenses and whatnot, but is bad for the same reason. By having it easy that way, there is no active pressure on me to get my life moving. My dad will never kick me out, so any action I take must be from within, which brings me to the final problem...

I'm really lazy, in important and dangerous ways. Sure, there are times when I'm energetic and can get stuff done, but all too often I slide into old habits of just sitting around all day. Sure I could fill out this application, but I can do it tomorrow just as easily, so I might as well wait. I am trying to overcome this, but it is hard to try hard when the very problem is that I am unable to try hard enough.

Ramble ramble ramble....

When it comes to trust, I am extremely trusting, probably too trusting. I am not a cynic, and cynics just piss me off. It's true I have never been deeply betrayed by someone close to me, but I just don't think people are all that bad. I have plenty of friends I trust strongly, and I'd like to believe I'd never betray them, either. Heck, I even trust Lavarinth, and that's saying something.

[Negi]

This thread got pretty fucking gay when all of the nubs started posting their life stories.  The worst are those where the writer complains or cries about some stupid bullshit and how life is so hard.  Get over yourselves (Note: This is not with respect to people like Des who actually had it really rough.)

Also, I trust Lavarinth because he's my boyyyyyyyy!

[Mucky]

Ricky, it's okay. You think before you talk. And sometimes you think but can't be bothered to talk. You're one of the few.

I will never trust Lavarinth.

[Legion]

Get over yourselves (Note: This is not with respect to people like Des who actually had it really rough.)

No, Des is pretty fucking gay too.